Even Steven...

It is absolutely amazing that our wedding vows do not include "will promise to remain "Even Steven" once we have kids and we both feel as though we have no time for ourselves". That should be in there. Sick, done......Poor, done.....but "tit for tat" or "even steven" that should be in there. I honestly don't love the concept, however, it has been my reality for the past 4 years (Jaxon will be 5 in August) that if I get to do something then Jeff will get to something of equal or lesser value. In the end I think we are left with an emptiness regarding our actual marriage or partnership to one another. We are so good at doing something for ourselves, we forget about trying to do something together. If I were to catalog this weekends events it would go as follows:

Saturday-Jaime goes for a run with friends

Jeff goes for a run with a friend

Sunday -Jaime goes shopping with her Mom

Jeff gets to have night off and work on his Fantasy Baseball team with his friends

So how can the cycle be broken? My guess is Even Steven has been around a long long time. I think as long as two people feel as though they do not have time to do the things they want to do, there will be a need for a sense of equality regarding time spent doing those fun activities. The sad part is, my sense of fun and Jeff's sense of fun are not the same right now. Isn't that weird? We found a way to say that I want to spend the rest of my life with you, but, we can't decide on an activity other than watching TV that truly satisfies BOTH of our needs. He wants golf, I want to shop. He wants to watch sports, I want to go wine tasting. We both enjoy running, but we are on different training schedules.......we are at a loss for things in common....and this is scary/strange/baffling to me. Does it come around? Will our tastes mesh? Does someone just GIVE in....(like Jeff will start liking coffee and shopping) I don't know, I hope so...it must?!?!

Until then, I love my girlfriends for sticking with me during these crazy times and I guess I love Jeff's guy friends for doing the same for him....and my prayer is that we will meet in the middle someday soon.

TV Executives LISTEN UP!

Okay who was the brainiac in charge of the TBS, TNT and FX weekend movie choices? On a weekend where the majority of the male community will be sitting in front of the TV watching Basketball, I would think it would be a GREAT idea to put a slew of Chick Flix on the secondary Network channels so the women of this world who could give a rats patootie about Basketball have something else to watch.

Sadly my choices today have been : "A Bronx Tale", "Fast and Furious Tokyo Drift", "Last Holiday" (and yes I know that a Queen Latifa movie is generally in a chick flick category, but that movie is just POOR) and "Four Brother's". I did just come upon a classic chick flick that is coming up shortly, "John Tucker must Die"....so I may have spoken too soon, but really let's get on the ball people and think about the women of this world.

For those of you who say...."Gee Jaime, must be nice to have so much time on your hands to just sit around watching TV movies", or "Gosh what are your children doing?"...I say to you, Sunday is my day off and I do what I enjoy most after the morning church and now mid afternoon Choir practice, I VEGE! I am an excellent vegetable on Sunday's...and I don't feel at all guilty....okay maybe a little...but I am trying not to.

P.S. For those of you concerned about the "Choir Practice" mentioned above, it is Jaxon singing, not me!

Lack of Fashion Sense...or Lack of Fashion?

While I admit that the choices for Fashion I provide myself with are small and very economic, I am really at a loss for words with the Fashion options out there right now. After visiting two of my favorite places (Old Navy & Target) I found nothing to get excited about, and in fact, I was VERY put off by more than one outfit at both locations. This makes me wonder if I am 1. Completely out of the fashion loop and this is the beginning of the end for me (insert Mom jeans and cat sweatshirts) or 2. I am not shopping in an age appropriate location.

I am sure more than one of my fellow Mommy friends would find themselves in a similar conundrum, stuck in this place where some things are truly "too young" to pull off, and yet we are not ready to only shop at Chicco's. I do not have the money to shop at boutiques or even Nordstrom right now, and I have never really fit in well at Banana Republic or the Gap. Macy's is "fine" but I have a hard time concentrating in there...too many options in various locations, where still I struggle to find my niche. I have never been an Anthropology girl, and while at one time I was totally sold on Anne Taylor Loft, I am beginning to see them for what they are...oddly made items for a select group of Petite gals.

I used to love a store called Janeville. They seemed to truly understand the POST baby, Middle,middle age woman with curves and a need to cover all the goodies and not so goodies. Sadly Janeville went out of business to focus on their baby brand Janie and Jack (where I never buy anything because I refuse to pay that much money for my kids clothes when I shop at Target) I am sad that Janeville is no longer around, it is a travesty to the "Post Baby Middle Middle age" gal who is looking for a good deal and a great outfit that actually looks put together.

Maybe if we come into some money I will try Nordstrom again, the quality is good and the service is fabulous...but that doesn't help my wardrobe now. Until then, expect very little from my attire and you will not be disappointed.